Saturday, 19 September 2026

Filling the gap 1

It’s been way too long since I wrote a blog. I thought I’d try and get in the knack again and explain more about the long gap. 

During the pandemic I managed to keep myself safe with mask wearing and good hand hygiene. I was still backwards and forwards to the hospital, and did not pick up the virus. 


In 2023 after 3 years of no travelling and no holidays, it was decided that I could travel to Ireland. My family are fortunate enough to have a small house in the Kerry mountains. It’s always been an amazing bolt hole for me. It’s almost like, when you breathe the air there, it fills up more of your lungs. The house is a kilometre or half a mile from the village. The village is remote and 30 miles from the nearest railways station. There is a general hospital just over an hour away and the main university hospital is in Cork which is just over 2 hours away.






Before leaving London, I made contact with Cork hospital as that’s where the haematology unit was. I explained about being immunocompromised and travelling for the first time. They took all my details and hoped I had a lovely trouble free holiday. 


A few days later I started to feel unwell. I did a covid test and to my horror it came back positive. I rang Cork hospital and explained. They rand Kings in London to confirm what I was saying. They then rang me back and said they would send the prescription to the village pharmacy but to leave it a while before collecting to allow the process to go through. Not long after this, there was a knock at my door and my neighbour, who also works in the pharmacy, hand delivered the antiviral medication. It was probably quicker and smoother than negotiating the system in London. I was very well looked after.


My long suffering partner Maggie picked up the virus and Sönke who was with us also had the virus. He probably had it first. Both he and Maggie felt awful and had to go to bed for a couple of days. We also had 2 of the grandkids with us. They didn’t get Covid despite 3 adults in the house being positive. I looked after the kids and got drinks and snacks for Maggie and Sönke and sorted the kids out. When the others started to feel better, Sönke asked me if I was bionic because I just carried on. Lol. I told him I was very used to feeling unwell and carrying on, whereas he and Maggie were usually fit and therefore not so used to doing things when you feel crap. 


Any way for the purpose of brevity the story continued with Maggie and Sönke getting back to normal very quickly. I continued to test positive for Covid for months and months. I had a rotten cough and I had to be seen in isolation when attending the hospital. I finally tested negative in the December, I think. Then a month later picked up rhinovirus which is the official title for the common cold. I continued to to test positive for this for months. I finally tested negative and we decided to go to Ireland again. They say lightening never strikes twice in the same place. Unbelievably, in the small remote place in Ireland, I picked up Covid again. 


Once more I tested positive for ages. I think I spent the best part of 18 months being treated in isolation and not seeing my regular consultant. The constant viral infections played havoc with my chest and has left me with an almost permanent chesty cough. 


On top of this my thyroid was all out of sorts. Unbeknown to me, despite taking Levothyroxine, my thyroid was running consistently low. How it impacted on me is I lost my mojo. I felt really flat and thought I was suffering from depression. This is not something I’ve suffered from before. It was like my get up and go had got up and gone. 


I plodded on but was finding life difficult. I still had loads of hospital appointments. Al one of these an older woman noticed my name on the screen. She asked me if it was me who was blogging about life with MDS and the treatment effects? I said yes and she grasped my hand and said she was so pleased to meet me. That gave me the push to write a blog again as at that point I hadn’t for about a year. I started to write a few blogs and the last entry was October 2025. 


On 9 December 2025 I went into hospital for a minor procedure under general anaesthetic. Even though it was a day case, they had booked me a bed because of my complications but if I felt fine, I could go home. 


I remember going to the loo and feeling very faint on my way back. I told the nurse and he grabbed hold of me. He got another colleague to take the other side of me and was yelling for a trolley. The nurse he was yelling at didn’t quite understand and was bringing a chair. I thought it was funny but knew I was as going to pass out any minute. They just got the trolley as it went dark for a second. As that had happened and I was in pain they decided to admit me. 


Maggie settled me into bed. She said I was a bit out of it and kept dropping my tablets. She thought it was because I’d had morphine. If only we knew then what we know now. Maggie left that night and that’s the last thing I remember for just over 2 weeks. 


I will continue this unbelievable story in a separate blog as I don’t want to make this too long. 


Thanks for sticking with me and I hope to get back to regular blogging. If I don’t, you have my permission to poke me and give me a kick in the right direction. 

Tuesday, 21 October 2025

9th Rebirthday









 Today is my 9th rebirthday. Wow! Double figures next year! I am amazed to have got this far. It wouldn’t have happened without the support of my wonderful sister Gail and her gift of life to me in the form of stem cells. 

During the month that I was in hospital, Gail and Maggie came every day. They made such a difference to me and what was great is they were able to support each other. It was an intense time for us all and the love we all have for one another was deepened. 

These 9yrs have not been easy. In fact I’m more disabled now than I was before the transplant but at least I’m still here. I know there will be more struggles to come but with the continued love and support of my family and friends, I know I’ll get through it until my time comes. Thank you to all who have been part of my journey. Either the 16 years with MDS or the 9 years with post transplant complications. Thank you to my amazing medical teams mainly at Kings but also at Guys. 

The sad thing is over these last 25 years I’ve had to say goodbye to many. This has been either through dying from the blood cancer or because friends and acquaintances just couldn’t cope with my level of suffering and ill health and have slowly withdrawn. 

You need to dig deep when you experience a cancer diagnosis. The ramifications on physical and mental health are severe but it’s not just the illness and the treatment, it’s also the changes. Changes to friendship groups, changes to physical ability, changes that lead to a minimal social life, changes to the way and how long you can holiday for. These are just some of the difficulties. 

Cancer also has some positives. It brings you much closer to the people that love and care for you. It stops you sweating the small stuff. It gives you an opportunity to give back like I do with cr_uk and MDS UK Patient Support Group and kingscollegehospital. I may not be able to sing like I used to which would always make my soul smile but I have learned to live deep in my soul and for that I’m grateful. 



“Life is only 10% of what happens to you. The other 90% is how you respond to it” #mds #bloodcancer #Cancer #cancerawareness #SurvivorStrength

Monday, 13 October 2025

Remembering October












 



October is one of those challenging and uplifting months all at the same time. The reason is I have loads of significant dates in the month attached to important people in my life or important events. 


3 Oct is the anniversary of my lovely chosen mums death. She was sos special and there are times I long to talk to her. If I still myself I can still hear her voice. 


9 Oct is my eldest grandchild’s birthday. He is 22 now and making his way in the world. He is a lovely soul and I’m so proud of him. 


9 Oct is also the anniversary of my priesting.  I was ordained priest in the morning and went to Alfie’s 1st birthday party in the afternoon. So that makes me 21 years a priest. 


11 Oct is mine and Maggie’s anniversary. 34 years this year. She is the love of my life and my rock. I don’t know where I’d be without her. 


11 Oct is also the day I had my first bag of chemo 9 years ago. 


12 Oct is the anniversary of the death of the forever young Vicky. This feisty imp died when she was only 20. She was a tiny dot due to her cystic fibrosis but she left a huge impact on all who knew and loved her. Her birthday was so important to her. She made such a fuss about it so I never forget it. She would have been 37 today. 


21 Oct is my 9th rebirthday. It’s the day I got my sister’s stem cells and my life was saved. It was also changed forever. 


25 Oct is World MDS Awareness Day. MDS was my rare blood cancer. I was formally diagnosed in 2000 though I had weird blood tests going back to the 80s. 


So you can see that October is an emotionally laden month for me. 


I haven’t blogged for a year because I’ve been going through stuff. I think it’s about time I got going again. Expect more from me in the future. 


Love and hugs folks 


Rebel Rev AKA Kes



Tuesday, 8 July 2025

I’ll be back soon

Sorry I haven’t been posting for a while. I’ve been a bit like a water bug in a cocoon. As soon as my dragonfly wings appear I will start to fly again and will come back to this forum. Please bear with me.





Monday, 11 November 2024

Audio Diary Special Sister

 https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p0jz5654?partner=uk.co.bbc&origin=share-mobile


Hi everyone. Something different from me this week. If you can access BBC Sounds do check out this Sunday Morning Breakfast show. I’ve done an audio diary for 8 years with BBC Kent. This time last year that changed to be broadcast out to Sussex and Surrey too. This unique episode explains why despite everything I have been through, this is one of the hardest years of my life. The show runs from 6-10am. Please do listen as it has some great segments and a lovely presenter and producer. My slots airs around 7.40am if you want to tune in live in future. If you can use this link and just want to tune in to my slot the move the cursor on 1.40 and I’ll be around there abouts. 










 




Monday, 21 October 2024

Happy 8th Rebirthday

Today is my 8th rebirthday. These last 8 years since the transplant have been very interesting. There have been some mega ups and downs. 

None of this would have been possible without the precious gift of life that my very amazing and special sister Gail gave me. 

I may have a crap body but my 6 pack spirit carries me through mostly. Gail the fact that I’m still breathing today is down to you. Words could never express my gratitude. 

You and Maggie were absolute stars trekking up to the hospital every day and getting me through it all. I couldn’t have done it without you both. Most people look at me and see a strong woman. I look at both you and Maggie and know why I’m so strong. Love you both lots. It was nice to spend the day with you both and raise a glass to us too. Xx

#stemcelltransplant #myelodysplasticsyndrome #cancersurvivor #anthonynolan #dkms #NHSBT









Sunday, 15 September 2024

Blood Cancer Awareness Month 2024 (3)









This is my 3rd blog in the mini series for #bloodcancerawarenessmonth #thisisbloodcancer. The images are me on a sand board in Brazil and me being discharged after the transplant. Then a few others to illustrate what I’m saying.

I’ve been back a week from my lovely trip to Ireland. During that time I’ve seen the ophthalmologist, haematologist, endocrinologist, ENT, audiologist and had a mammogram. I think they’ve all missed me. Lol. 

My covid is still hanging about. I have a cough on top of the cough left from last years infections. I’ve had a few choking sessions too. I wonder why covid makes you choke? My sats are a little low. My watch alerted me and as that’s not medical grade I checked on my proper machine. It’s only a bit low and comes up again when I’ve stopped coughing. 

Infections are one of the symptoms of blood cancer. If you have recurrent infections it’s always worth having a blood test to see if your white cell count is normal. White cells fight infection so if they are low you pick things up easily. Once you are diagnosed with blood cancer it’s important you invest in a good thermometer. I know that if I have a temperature over 37.8 I need support from the haematology team urgently. 

I’ve had a challenging week in terms of social media encounters. A Facebook “friend” sent me a message privately but asked me to share it. This is the content of that message: “ Now you've stopped the winter fuel payments for pensioners and free tv licences for the over 75's there is no reason why you can't stop all the handouts for the boat people.”

This was my reply: “ Please don’t send things like this to me. People that arrive in boats are treated terribly. They are human beings who risk their lives for something better. They have no voice. Pensioners have a loud voice when it comes to lobbying parliament. There is no comparison and I find it upsetting.”

I don’t understand why people always go for the most marginalised. Who we should be going for are the rich who need to do their bit as well as the pensioners. We are directly affected by this withdrawal of £200 winter fuel allowance. We don’t mind tightening our belts if all share in this policy. So many people made fortunes on the back of the PPE scandals. They should feel the pain too. I know Maggie and I will be ok and some pensioners will not. That’s not good and it’s being introduced with too blunt cutoffs. It needs to be available still to those who will really suffer but yet can’t get pension credits. The line is too harsh, but people please don’t turn on each other. They say we are all in the same boat but we are not. We are all in the same storm. Some peoples boats are ocean liners, while others are in flimsy dinghies. Do think before posting these horrible messages. Imagine what it was like for the pregnant woman and 5 children who died last week. My heart goes out to them and all who safely make it but live in awful conditions while we take years to sort their status. If that was your partner or children fleeing to get a better life how would you feel seeing them all die. Don’t lose your humanity because that’s a very dangerous road to go down. 

Ok enough of my rant. Something funny before I leave you. When I saw the ophthalmologist we had a long talk about the state of my left eye. He was asking loads of questions from my childhood that I couldn’t answer with certainty. However when it came to my 2nd squint correction when I was 17 I had all the details. He asked me how come I know so much about that. I said I’d already left home and it was down to me from that point to sort my health out. He said that was young to leave home and I told him that the nurses on the ward were astounded that I’d already left home and thought I looked about 12. He then quipped “you only look 40 now” Lol. As I’m 60 in a few months time I’ll take that. 😜